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What is Mutual Masturbation?

August 03, 2022 2 min read

We all love a good masturbation session: flicking the bean, jerking off, polishing the pearl, whatever you wanna call it! Now that we’re well into the month of Masturbation May, we wanna turn things UP and dive into mutual masturbation and really just answer the question…

What is Mutual Masturbation?

Essentially, mutual masturbation refers to when partners physically stimulate each other’s genitals. This can be performed either by using your hands or adding some fun sex toys to the mix. But hold up, there’s also another definition of mutual masturbation and that is where two or more people simply masturbate in each other’s presence (without actually coming into physical contact). Mutual masturbation is also sometimes referred to as “mutual pleasuring”.

Benefits of Mutual Masturbation

  • Discovering Pleasure Outside of Penetration

Mutual masturbation allows you and your partner to explore and discover a new way of pleasuring each other without penetration involved, this can end up being amazing for connecting with your partner in an erotic mutual masturbation session. In addition, if you’re ever bored of penetrative sex and want to spice things up in the bedroom, you can always consider mutual masturbation.

  • Lowers Risk of Sexually-Transmitted Infections (STIs)

If you and your partner are merely masturbating in each other’s presence, the risk of STIs is practically reduced to zero. Meanwhile, if you and your partner are pleasuring each other physically, the risk of STIs may not be non-existent but is significantly reduced.

  • Better Orgasms

It isn’t always the case that you’ll get an orgasm from penetrative sex or other forms of sex, but with mutual masturbation, you’re almost always going to climax. Why? Because you can either do it yourself or you can instruct your partner on exactly what to do, all the control is in your hands, bb (literally in your hands, yes).

  • Learning How to Pleasure Your Partner

This is arguably one of the best benefits of mutual masturbation as you can learn about your partners preferences and exactly how they like to be pleasured. This, then, leads to increased intimacy and allows for intense bonding between you and your partner.

We Suggest

There's many ways to experiment and test out what works for you and your partner but at XOXTOYS, we have some fun and unique products that cold bring some new variation and fun into your bedroom. The Tom of Finland Head To Head Vibrating Sleeve - is a dual ended masturbation sleeve that allows two people with penis's to enjoy pleasure together, head to head. Of course, two people with vulvas could also enjoy a double ended dildo such as the Fun Factory Share Double Dildo. With the right imagination, any toy can spark fantasy to how you can play apart, together.


Couples mutual masturbation (or in a group if you’re feeling so inclined) is a great activity for you and your partner to perform as it not only gives you great orgasms and climaxes but also helps you to know your partner better and get more intimate in a totally new space that you might not have thought to try before!